The end of the year can be a challenging time. Although I strongly believe that it’s a great time for review, to see what is working and what areas of life you still need to improve, it can also be a bit challenging. It’s so easy to look back over the year and focus on all the things you said you were going to do and didn’t accomplish and determine the year, and more dangerously yourself, a failure.

The reason I use the word dangerous is that things can spiral out of control if you are focusing on the negative. Before you know it you are beating yourself up. Even worse you aren’t willing to make future commitments, afraid that you won’t follow through on those either. It’s hard to trust yourself when all you see are your mistakes.

As soon as you jump on the “I’m a loser” bandwagon, your money magnetism comes to a screeching halt. So just don’t go there because you can’t create from a place of fear and anger.

You can’t hear your inner wisdom when you are letting your inner critic have the microphone.

Instead, as you review 2022 look for all the ways you succeeded and all the happiness you experienced even if they were small wins. If you had financial goals, look at the progress you made even if you didn’t hit your stated goal. See all the ways you were able to turn bad situations around and all the times you helped someone else.

I know it’s compelling to think about all the challenges you faced and all the ways others wronged you or times when you didn’t follow through… but it’s really not helpful.


Go deep within yourself and have a talk with your wise self. Ask your inner guidance system to help you create a vision of what you want your life to look like next year and what steps you need to take to make that vision real. Have talks with yourself regularly to remind yourself that you have accomplished things in the past and that you are able to achieve your goals, that you deserve to have the life you dream about.

When you hear your inner critic reminding you of past failures see if you can counter it with all the reasons you are a success. At first it’s just important to notice when you are saying negative things to yourself. It can be such a habit that you aren’t even aware that you’re doing it. I remember when I was married, if I made a mistake I would say out loud “you are so stupid” to which my husband would reply “no one talks to my wife that way”. That was the first time I realized that I was demeaning myself. I never would have said anything like that to someone else for making an error. I was horrified that I was treating myself so poorly.

Most important is to not let the fear of failure keep you from trying again. You aren’t the same person now as you were even yesterday. Also, find a partner or a group that will hold you accountable and help cheer you on. We all need the support of others. Know that fear will probably always be there but you can take it with you and not let it stop you.

So let’s start the year out right supporting each other’s dreams together.

Join me for a free, 90 minute ceremonial workshop to bring in the New Year. My gift to you, where we will release the old and tap into your creative powers to help you design a year you will love.

We will meet January 1st, at 1:00 central time on Zoom.

I will send you a list of things you’ll need for the ceremony after you register. Nothing major here, you probably have everything you need already.

Let’s Create an amazing year, together!

A Gathering of Release and Intention

With Sheryl Kosovski

Sunday, January 1, 2023

1:00-2:30 central time

Free on Zoom

Can you make it? Here is the link: https://self-worth.coach/nye-ceremony/

Feel free to invite your friends.